tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post2305888874311757599..comments2019-11-18T07:29:32.394+05:30Comments on travelswithsimon: Choices, choicesThe Hamilton Grouphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02665504155158593006noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-2167379215949625352010-06-07T02:10:28.529+05:302010-06-07T02:10:28.529+05:30Anna, I just had the same conversation with Simon ...Anna, I just had the same conversation with Simon on iChat just yesterday, about being bored by my own company, and feeling empty without others and having no interest at all in the sound of my own breath.... we're on the same page. I think I admire the attitude Fiona describes, and Simon was searching for, but without being able to do anything about it for myself. I just don't enjoy being alone, end of. No amount of 'working on myself' makes any difference. Luckily for us, there are billions out there. (some of them are even tolerable). xxHabiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16839739262759916490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-4661026104550142852010-06-05T22:29:13.477+05:302010-06-05T22:29:13.477+05:30point taken, fiona! my resistance was to a search ...point taken, fiona! my resistance was to a search for so-called 'inner peace' at the expense of 'outer peace' - ie, satisfying relations with other people. i suppose i'm just not very good at solitary pursuits - my own company tends to bore me!! :-)annamp1https://www.blogger.com/profile/03225549496385458497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-29191305252511101402010-06-02T02:12:58.706+05:302010-06-02T02:12:58.706+05:30dont worry about replying Simon, just keep the tho...dont worry about replying Simon, just keep the thought stream going, it is very stimulating. :)<br />@Annamp1, I have been happily married, then less happily married, then unhappily married, then divorced, then happily with someone else, then no longer with that person and now am happily and peacefully solitary. And I would be happily with someone again if the right person came into my life. I am truly amazed how well we are able to adjust to different situations. I value so much living on my own; and though at times I feel a little lonely these occasions are few and far between.Fiona Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13800004498494209632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-4173721756230999532010-06-01T22:07:32.703+05:302010-06-01T22:07:32.703+05:30Thank you to everyone who has commented both here ...Thank you to everyone who has commented both here and directly by email. Most of you have been very chllenging and that's what I wanted. Thank you!! I will reply as best I can.The Hamilton Grouphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02665504155158593006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-79150672380341406102010-05-31T23:21:53.793+05:302010-05-31T23:21:53.793+05:30"Come you lost Atoms to your Centre draw,
An..."Come you lost Atoms to your Centre draw, <br />And be the Eternal Mirror that you saw: <br />Rays that have wander'd into Darkness wide <br />Return and back into your Sun subside " <br /> <br />Conference of the Birds, Farid ud-Din Attar, 1117Kathy Geehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00064377054679318724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-23749521797360297602010-05-31T02:55:41.440+05:302010-05-31T02:55:41.440+05:30"... everything is continually changing... Lo..."... everything is continually changing... Love between two people, however wonderful does not last"<br />I think differently about this; love does last, however often what we think of as love is conditional and does not last as it does not allow for change. Unconditional love however remains, and evolves and itself changes, and accepts. <br />My old teacher used to say that "Love is the active participation in the process of life and humility is the passive acceptance in the process of life" I interpret this as the urge to be fully active in life in whatever capacity life asks of us in any moment and the acceptance of not having any control over any outcome. There is peace in letting go of the outcome and yet fully participating all the same, it leads to excitement and increases the love.Fiona Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13800004498494209632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-5157233650164024052010-05-31T00:05:00.694+05:302010-05-31T00:05:00.694+05:30Show you something that's permanent? Er, HUMAN...Show you something that's permanent? Er, HUMANITY! Humanity, for humankind, IS permanent.. And it's a bloody marvel too.. The capacity that we have as humans to love, to think, to argue, to reason - those things will never change or cease to exist as long as humankind roams the earth. More to the point, SUFFERING is human (and permanent!)..<br /><br />Why try and find inner peace when that's the biggest fantasy of all? Happiness is something different, and is very achievable I think - because you can find it everywhere, in all the little things. But a little bit of suffering along the way is a good thing! (Spot the jew!!).. I mean respect for nature and animals and the earth is imperative, but we have to respect what makes us human too - ie, to feel and to think.. And inner peace is not exactly our strong suit! I bet cows and donkeys and gorillas have better luck than us! I mean, put it this way: how many people do you know who have inner peace AND are happily married? I'd take happily married over solitary oneness any day!<br /><br />(Sorry to argue with you, simon - great blog nonetheless!)annamp1https://www.blogger.com/profile/03225549496385458497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8298742090519725972.post-72023877678556133982010-05-30T17:13:27.844+05:302010-05-30T17:13:27.844+05:30What a beautifully written stream Simon. It sounds...What a beautifully written stream Simon. It sounds as if your introduction to Buddhism has been very stimulating. <br />I have another question?<br />If there is "anything in our material world that can give lifelong happiness" would we want it, or would we find it lost it's lustre after a while and we wanted something else or something more?<br />I wonder; if we werent programmed to be always searching for Nirvana, Heaven, the Holy Grail, happiness, would we simply stop evolving? What then? Would we stagnate? Does stagnation sound like Nirvana? I find it most amusing that we cling to permanence and crave for change both at the same time, two sides of the same coin.Fiona Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13800004498494209632noreply@blogger.com